I love to read and try to do as much as I can. One of the neighbor ladies recommended The Nine Lessons by Kevin Alan Milne to me.
First and foremost I am not a golfer. I have gone along with J once and it is not my thing. None the less; the lessons in this short story are worth passing along.
This story is about a young man (Augusta) that has a wife pregnant with their first child. The Lessons are the words of advice from Augusta’s father over the nine months of his wife’s pregnancy.
Lesson 1: “Nobody expects to step up and nail a hole-in-one every time. The whole point of golf is not to be a perfect golfer – that’s impossible. The point is to become better as you play more and gain experience.”
Lesson 2: “Marriage is a partnership. Today (your partner) made it through … only because her partner was encouraging her and helping her. I’m sure you also showed patience and understanding, because that’s what good partners do. With your spouse, if you support and encourage each other and always put the other person first, then your marriage will survive whatever turbulence may come. Work everyday to be the best partner you can be, and you’ll be fine.”
Lesson 3: “Some days we play the game of life in the rain. Not all days can be sunny skies and fair weather. But sooner or later the dark skies dissipate … and the light shines through.”
Lesson 4: “If your child wanders out of bounds, stick by his side, let him know you’re there to help, and encourage him to get back on the fairway as quickly as possible. Kids may wonder off course for a spell, but if they know you still love them and you’re there to help, eventually they’ll get back on track and finish the hole.”
Lesson 5: “We call it etiquette, but it really just boils down to being nice. Golf is a game of courtesy, and in life, we would all be better off if we tempered ourselves like we do in the golf course.”
Lesson 6: “In golf, we keep score to measure ourselves, not our golf partner. If you and (your wife) would stop keeping score, then fights like yours this morning wouldn’t happen. Nobody wants to hear that their spouse is keeping track of how much they are or are not contributing. Get rid of the mental tallies that need to be done. (Your wife) is a good woman. I’m willing to bet that if you don’t keep score, she won’t either.
Lesson 7: “If you’re going to do something in this life, do it all the way. Anything worth starting is worth finishing. If you don’t follow through in golf, the results are terrible, and the same thing goes for life.”
Lesson 8: “You can’t force your children to listen to you. Sometimes they will venture off and take shots that seem ill advised. As hard as it may be, you have to allow kids to make their own choices and then face the consequences, even if you know they’re waling on thin ice.”
Lesson 9: “Think big picture. In golf, a mulligan is a do-over, yes, but it’s much more than that. It’s an opportunity to make amends without penalty. It’s an act of mercy granted from your golf partner when a mistake is made. Mulligan’s in life can come in many different forms, but they all boil down to essentially the same thing – forgiveness.”
Lesson 10: “A good golfer keeps his head down and knees bent. It may not feel natural at first, but bending your knees can make all the difference.” “Prayer. A golfer never stands taller than when he is on his knees. There’s nothing wrong with asking for a little help when the events of life are beyond our control.”
Okay, I found ten useful life lessons from this story. I hope you can positively reflect on these ideas as much as I have.